Marriage life without love??

Ermm, the title kinda heavy though.. but it's ok let get the topic slowly.. (in malay ok.. haha)

OK, perkahwinan tanpa cinta (kejadahnya asik citer sal kawin je lately kan? Layan kan je.. org2 tgh dlm dilema perkahwinan la katenyer..).

My parents, kawin dulu pun out of love, derang just happen to know each other on the day of wedding. So, the love came after the wedding. Yet, derang still happily live together blessed with 5 childrens. But ramai gak yg cerai berai lepas kawin kononnya takder persefahaman. No love No Understanding.. etc. etc..

Itu cerita orang dulu2. Cerita orang2 sekarang dah berbeza. Kalau dulu perkataan 'CERAI' jarang sangat kita dengar. I remember when I was a small kid, takdela small sangat tp kecik la juga to understand aper benda cerai tu. Mom try explain tp tak jumpa contoh orang da bercerai (in my family yg i kenal la kan). Nowadays, almost everyday dok dgr citer sal cerai berai ni. Kadang2 i wonder, why kawin kalau nk bercerai berai kan??

One of my aunty pernah gv advice not to marry a guy just bcoz of love, tgk gak poket dia camne.. kalau sengkek manjang ingat boleh hidup ke makan cinta tu? Well, time tu I came to a conclusion yg kadang2 time bercinta ni kita tak nampak whats ahead, yg kita tau seronok je.. takde duit pun takpe selagi berdua.. takde duit nk makan kita puasa.. tp once da ada anak, do u think the anak boleh nk puasa gak?? Then come the first arguement pasal duit, at that moment da tak ingat pasal cintacintun sumer tu dah.. first argument leads to 2nd, third n so on so forth... till the divorce word came out from the mouth one of them.. There you go.. bergegar tiang Arash bila perkataan tu disebut....

For me, love is not necessary (yola tu) but understanding is the most. Bila kita dapat menerima kekurangan seseorang sebagai manusia yg tidak sempurna, kita mampu menutupkan sebelah mata kita menerima seseorang despite of his/her imperfectness dan ketidaksempurnaan itu mampu kita tutup dengan kelebihan diri kita, thats the moment that I will proceed with marriage. I've been in love, being loved and loved some1 (or some2? haha). I even discussed about marriage with one of them but I take it as I was so young n never imagine the cruelty of this world :p. Then, I never gv a serious thought about marriage.

At this age, it's a real pressure being asked about marriage especially when most of cozins at my age is either married or getting married. But to be honest, I normally don't give a damn but sometimes I do think n considering what ppl says. Everytime berkawan dengan seseorang, I will always try to co-op his imperfectness n I wish he do the same with me. I'm far from perfect. But all I can see is, perhaps he can bare with my imperfectness but not me. So it is like one side understanding. It doesn't work anyway. So bila pk2 camni, I think till I met some1 yg I mampu tuk terima kekurangan dia as suatu kelebihan dia.. He's the one..
(p/s: bang jgn senyum2 dulu ehh.. :p)


Dear my fren Onizuka n Farah - CONGRATS DEAR FOR YOUR WEDDING!!
MAY GOD BLESS YOU WITH MANY CUTE BABIES...